It is far less likely for transmission to occur from oral sex, but it is not impossible. When HIV-infected seminal fluid or pre-seminal fluid comes into contact with the damaged tissue, transmission occurs. Anal sex, especially sex without lube, can cause damaged tissue in the anal mucous membrane, or the lining of the anal wall. The highest-risk sexual behavior among gay men is anal sex, with receptive anal sex (bottoming) riskier than insertive anal sex (topping). Transmission - HIV is transmitted through certain body fluids – blood, semen, pre-seminal fluid (pre-cum), rectal fluids, vaginal fluids, and breast milk. And with HIV infection on the rise among young gay and bisexual men, it is imperative to arm yourself with the right information in order to stay safe and enjoy your sex life without fear.
Although HIV is very much a manageable disease today, it can still cause mental, emotional, and physical trauma without the proper information and support. HIV isn’t just a gay issue, but the importance of HIV is entrenched in gay history, gay culture, and gay sex. Use the power of consent and make sure your sexual partners feel comfortable with using theirs. Do not compromise your emotional and sexual health by being pressured into doing things you aren’t comfortable with just because you are too afraid to speak up. If you or your partner is too inebriated for one reason or another, not being able to say no is not a yes. The duality of men being men and same-sex intimacy far too often can blur the lines of sexual abuse. It is also not compatible with silicone-based sex toys.Ĭonsent - Consent is hardly ever discussed when it comes to gay sex, but it is an integral part of being a healthy gay man. Silicone-based lube, however, is not as easy as water-based to clean off. Since this lube doesn’t absorb into the body, a little goes a long way, and it works in the shower, bathtub, pool, or hot tub. Silicone-based lube: This type of lube is smooth, long-lasting, and less likely to feel sticky or tacky during use. However, this lube is not as long-lasting as silicone because it absorbs into the body and it is not waterproof. This kind of lube rinses off with just water and is 100 percent latex condom–compatible. Water-based lube: This type of lube is easy to clean and safe to use with toys as well as during anal sex. There are general two types of lube to choose from. So when in doubt, always opt for more lube. Lube makes for cleaner, safer, and more pleasurable sex for both partners. Lube not only makes anal sex feel better, but it can also reduce your risk of tearing the anal wall. Douching, however, can damage the mucous membrane of the anal wall, so be careful.Ĭomfort - Lube is one of the most important components to a healthy gay man's sex life.
Other times - depending on your diet or your digestive system - you may need to douche. Sometimes, all you need is a good push and some sani-wipes to be sex-ready. When it comes to anal sex, there are three main topics that you should study: Cleanliness, Comfort, and Consent.Ĭleanliness - Anal sex can be great, but the last thing you want to ruin your sexy moment is an unappealing smell.